I was at a party tonight, and all of a sudden my dad calls... ok whatever. then all of a sudden i find out my grandfather died.. I mean no big deal right.......? Man i realized how big of a deal it is... wow... So how many of youy out there have experienced the same thing.. i mean i know its random... but who has all of a sudden found out something tha thsouldn't be so detremental until it actually happened?

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have you really found your grandfather??

One day, i was with my father and we walked in a graveyard...a very big graveyard, very beautiful and with a lot of celebrity there. I looked to the little hole of a crypt and i see a corpse in decomposition with a toxedo LOL....no jokes!!...his coffin was broke and he was lying beside!!!...i call my father and when he saw it he said: wow...beautiful suit!!

i was only 11

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i've had that happen. came home from school to hear that my granddad is dead. didnt really bothered me and then it hit me

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Hahaha!

Well, when my uncle died, it also didn't hit me right away. Initially, I even had to 'force' crying (I was only 9).

It sure hit me at the funeral though.

It's human nature for some to be that way. I mourned the loss of my dad long before he died when he finally wasn't quite himself from all the drugs he had to be on in his final cancer stages. At least he was able to stay at home. I still cry occasionally and miss him. I do that with all those close to me. That's just the way I am.

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I never even got to meet my grandapas

Wow i was drunk as fuck when i posted that. Yeah... i guess i'm giong to louisana today. I mean.. interestingly enough i really wasn't THAT CLOSE to my grandfather. I dunno when my dad called it just was a pretty unpleasant thing. Its just one of those things that you didn't think would effect you nearly as much as when it happens. Weird... Oh well thats life.

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sorry to hear man. one of my friends recently committed suicide and i didnt find out about it after the funeral. he wasnt really close to me or anything, but i just started to become friends with him. he was the anti-social type who didnt really say much, but one you got to know him he was pretty badass and he had a good taste in music. when i found out, it just kept eatin at me for about a week, and i had a much needed introspective loook at my life.

i feel for ya man.

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sorry to hear that man. yea..losing relatives and friends is never fun, and always comes at the most random times...unless they've been on their death bed or something like that. it really hits you at the service. i hadn't cried at all when my second grandfather died..but when i was there looking at him and seeing all my family in tears, i just couldn't help it.

having friends you hang out with all the time die is a little different i think. i only see most of my relatives once or twice a year tops. but with someone you hang out with everyday...it takes longer to sink in..you keep expecting them to be around.

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Sorry to hear about your lose. Shit changes fast and people will do nothing but die on you the rest of your life. I learned fast to make the time you have with others count.

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Yeah, sorry to hear of your lose mate. Everyone reacts differently to such news and everybody needs their time to mourn in their own way. It's not un-common for it not to sink in until a long time after the event. It's natural to grieve and cry so don't try and bottle it up. People who bottle stuff up tend to experience problems later.

I find funerals the worst thing in the world, the church service often tends to be too depressing when it should be a reflection of a fruitful life. My mother always said you should cry at weddings and not at funerals. With funerals you know where they're going but at weddings you don't! There, old wives tale for ya(I'm sure L,B'XXX will chuckle at that anecdote)

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This is why I want to move back to Broken Hill! My time to do what I want is ample compared to what I can do with my older relatives.

At least the law of averages says that. Hopefully it's true.

And yeah, that was a cute anecdote. How true!

My kids have both reacted to death in the family differently. I never tried to change that, but have learned to observe more than what they sometimes show to understand their grieving processes.

I remember when my dad died and we were at the funeral home my eldest was talking with the director. He was in elementary school at the time and the director was talking about when he was in college and they sang "A tisket a tasket I'm laying in a casket." I don't know if my son remembers that but I do. I kept thinking dad would be singing that, too.

The older I get the more I realize nothing is really that important except for family. The stuff doesn't matter. But boy, have I got the stuff!


Anyone want some stuff?

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Both my granddads are dead and my my parents passed away when I was 2 years old so I guess you could say I've experienced something similar.

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Ha, well either you guys are pussies or i just have no emotion, i have never felt anything when relatives have died.

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You're calling Slabbe a pussy because his parents died? You're an asshole.


I'm sorry for your loss tmfreak, I've had my best friend for 9 years die almost 2 years ago..they still haven't figured out if it were suicide or a murder. If it were a suicide, the cops say the fucker shot himself in the forehead, didn't die, then he had to load another bullet and do it again.

The first and only body I've seen was when I was 7, my mom dragged me to a priest's funeral. lol. Needless to say i was terrified at seeing his open casket and I had to sleep in my parents bed for several days. I remember when I would close my eyes, all I would see is a graveyard full of zombies.

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me either big guy

That's because you guys are macho fags.

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No its because he dont have emotions. I have no reason to have them.

Human emotions= obsolete

It's sad, because I believe you are dumb enough to believe yourself. Jesus, even when I was 16 I wasn't nearly as immature and completely lacking a brain. I honestly believe you are a complete fool after this post.




Come on, other members please laugh with me.

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Like this

Fuck, I dig that, I was sat down a few years ago, my great uncle had come back to England from South Africa, he ended up dieing from throat cancer but I it didn't hit at first, until about 3 weeks later when I just broke down, weird how things affect you

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I believe him. I mean, he obviously doesn't have human emotions such as boredom or excitement. And he's obviously proven how obsolete human emotions are by his incredible progress and productivity since eliminating his. The very paradigm of human achievement, and a model to the rest of us.

I'll believe you have any knowledge of what's obsolete, or anything else that takes some maturity and knowledge of the world, when you can punctuate your goddamn sentences, you half-witted, pseudo-profound expectorant.

For some reason most of my friends, and also myself, have had a grandparent die in the past year. As tmfreak and I aren't friends, you'd think that he'd get passed over, but I guess not. Anyway, in my case I was happy my grandfather died. My grandmother died eight years ago and since then he's slowly decayed away in a nursing home, outliving his own finances and occupying literally 1/4 of my mother's time while carrying on purely out of sense of habit. He was 97 and no longer had any joy in life, and it hurt me more to know he was suffering to live than to find out that he'd died; the news itself was more closure than anything.

*Shotgun pump sound...* BURNED!

To reiterate, mankind have emotions for survival. Without them you are disabled and unlikely to survive due that your senses and intellect are never stressed. You will never adavance or be sharpned by any experience. A human without emotion is a defect, impeded, and effectively obsolete.



My grandmother died a year ago this month. She raised me and my younger sister until I was 12. She was a mean bitch most times but I love her. She taught me more than I realized. She had a stroke a year after my mom moved my sister and I away from her with her new boyfriend. No one knew she had a major stroke until 2 days after it happened. She nearly died then, but she was a strong old mean bitch. She lived. She was put in a nursing home by my mom and her brothers for 2 years while she relearned how to speak, walk, write with her left hand, dance, ride a bike, manage her own life and its cost, and live all over again, despite being completely paralized on her right side. Her life was forever changed but she fought, pissed poeple off for doing shit they said she couldn't, and adapted. She was told she would not be able to live on her own again, but within those 2 years she proved that she could do just that for the next 14 years. She was happy to be in control of her life. She continued to do until just a month before she was found to have lung cancer September last year and had failing function. The cancer type was fast and in a place that could not be taken out. She was given 2-4 weeks to live.

The Navy recieved the message from Red Cross to put me on emergency leave but my command decided to work my ass the next few days before they let me go. I've worked my ass off everyday it was time to work, plus extra. What ever it took, I made it happen. I have never given anything less than 200% of myself once committed. I've sacrificed my health, my mind, my soul, and my families happiness perhaps the rest of my life for these 6 years of military service. She died while I was driving home the day after they let me go. I was 6 hours away. I told my command what happened once I got back. My Senior Chief said the message indicated 2-4 weeks The Red Cross message copy I got indicated immediate leave authorized though. Did my command suppose I should get there minutes before her passing? Thank you Navy dip shits! This is one of the reasons I decided to leave the Navy. I wasn't at sea so there was no reason to delay me other than lazy people with connections greater than mine didn't want to take up the slack. They wonder why I didn't enlist again

I'm happy to know she lived life the way she wanted. She was at my wedding and danced at the reception despite how tired I knew she can get. She had more energy than me. See was happy to do what she wanted.

2 Days before she died Mrs Soul ( pregnant with my second child ) took a plane back home ( Navy wouldn't allowed me to go then ). My grandmother wouldn't eat or talk about much other than she wanted to see my little girl ( her great grand daughter ). She had other grand children and they had visited her, but my girl was not there yet.

My girl ( 2 1/2 y.o. ) once there climbed under the covers with her right awayas if it were a party. She talked with her Great Grand Mother in her own limited language about horses, hugs, kisses, the plane ride, and candy. I wish I could have been there because my little girl managed to hand feed my grandmother candy that no one knew my little girl had my girl hidden in her pockets. That was the only thing anyone had gotten her to eat in days. I was skocking to see from what I heard. Grand mother took it and smiled the whole time. After my little girl gave her candy for an hour, kissed her, and said she loved her she and my wife left. The next morning my grandmother died. My mother was the only one there when it happened. I got the call on my cell phone but I was still hours away after driving all night




Sorry for the uber long story.

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Pwned. Requiem i'm actually pretty suprised. For dressing and looking alot like a girl i would imagine otherwise.

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Souli', I understand. To the military, a person ain't nothin' but a number. A piece of their machinery. If it robs you of pieces of your life it doesn't care.
Your grandma sounds really cool.

You guys that don't have any emotion for things will probably have an instance in your life that will make you break down and you won't have a clue how to handle it. Or you'll die very unhappy people. Maybe your ritalin 'script is too strong.
This one kid I know doesn't show much emotion when there's a tragedy close to home and says it's part of living, but once in awhile I see traces of the private moments when I know he's mourned alone in his own way.

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tmfreak, my condolences to you and anyone else who's lost a loved one here. for me the absolute worst part of my grandmother passing was the affect it had on my father. i love my grandmother dearly, and she was an amazing person (at 74 years old, 3 days after being released from BRAIN SURGERY, she was on her knees scrubbing the floor). watching your parents go through that pain is not only awful, but it makes you understand that someday you will be in the same position.